Time to Unite, Not Divide


“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only LIGHT can do that, hate cannot drive out hate; only LOVE can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Sorry it has been a while since I have posted.  Life has gotten busy with the end of the school year, start of my summer, and just life in general.  This past week, however, has been a week of upsets, therefore I feel the need to write about it.

I am a middle-aged middle class white woman.  Some would call me privileged, however, that just shows me that they don’t know my story.  I was raised by a single mom with very little help from a deadbeat dad.  Back then, my mom received $250 a month in child support which she had to fight tooth and nail to receive.  I learned very early on that when I asked for something and the answer was no, I just accepted it.  I did not beg or whine to get my way.  My mom kept the fact from me that for a while we were on food stamps, had no health insurance and were on the verge of losing our home on more than one occasion.

My kids have grown up under similar circumstances.  However, instead of keeping it from them, I tell them when we are struggling.  They have also learned that they must work hard for what they want and nothing is given freely.  Unlike many in today’s world, my kids work for their privileges.  They do not have that sense of entitlement like many of their classmates.  They do not drive brand new cars, instead they have the one with the big dent in the front and leaks oil regularly.  They also have an older tower computer that runs a little slow, but still does the job.  They don’t have the latest and greatest, but still hold their heads high because they know that what they do have, they worked for.

I will not get into specifics about this week’s shootings and violence.  Instead, I will say that everyone is human.  Black, white, gay, straight, police officers, criminals, strange people, normal people, men, women…WE ARE ALL HUMAN.  Therefore, as human beings, we all make mistakes.  No one is perfect and judgement can be flawed.  FORGIVENESS and LOVE is the only way that people will be able to live together.  Negativity only begets negativity.

Therefore all these posts that I see about how everyone else, or guns for that matter, is to blame drive me crazy.  As humans we are all responsible for our own actions.  I take responsibility for my actions.  My kids take responsibility for their actions.  It’s time for everyone else to take responsibility for their actions.  Quit passing the buck people!  Grow up and teach your children to be responsible.  Quit giving them everything that they ask for!  Say “NO” once in a while!  Hearing “NO” is a GOOD THING!  It teaches them humility and responsibility!  Your kids are flawed America!  You are raising a bunch of spoiled brats!

I can’t count how many times I have had to call a parent about their kid being bad on the bus and the parent can’t believe that their “Angel” could ever do anything wrong!  Until I show them the video of their daughter pretending to have sex with the bus seat and her flute.  Or writing “rape me” on the bus window.  Or using pot on the bus.  The examples could go on…but i digress…

The fact is, people need to quit posting all the negative and need to focus on the positive!  I am loving seeing all the positive posts regarding kind interactions between police officers and the public.  HATE BEGETS HATE, LOVE BEGETS LOVE!  It’s time to start loving more and hating less!  I know that it is sometimes a hard thing to do, but why don’t we start with something small?  How about just acknowledging each other instead of ignoring.  It is a small step, but hopefully a significant one.

Thanks for reading my rants.  If I just reach one person, I will be happy!  🙂